September 15, 2016
It’s smack-dab in the middle of wedding season. For about 5-6 months we spend our days (and evenings) photographing, editing photographs, emailing, meeting clients, blogging and making trips to the post office. That’s pretty much all- the only kind of fun that exists is the work-kind-of-fun. We love it but it’s truly grueling, a bit hard on our bodies, and if we let it, it would be hard on our marriage.
Yesterday we had an engagement session in Point Reyes. This is a 2.5 hour drive from our home in Sacramento. Even though we are in the midst of busy season with a ton on our work-plate, we were so excited to be making the drive for the session to meet one of our couples for the first time and to photograph them in one of the prettiest parts of the planet. Unfortunately, due to ME not being very clear with the couple, we did not go to the same location to meet each other. There was ZERO cell phone coverage and by the time we were united, just about all the beautiful golden light was gone and the shoot had to be rescheduled. The poor couple had also driven 2 hours to get to the shooting location. If you know me (dana) you know I am a pretty emotional gal. Putting someone else out, the way we put them out, weighed heavy on my heart.
I don’t know how many of you guys work full time with your spouse. But if your business partner cost you a tank of gas, 5 hours of driving, an hour and a half of waiting, and the stress and worry that I caused Scott (and myself), with not much to show for any of it, you might not be too happy with them. I know I wouldn’t be. We NEEDED those 7 hours to be productive at this time in the season. There’s no time to waste.
Do you know what my husband did? Scott put his arm around me, told me it was all good and (after apologizing to our clients) he took me out to dinner. There wasn’t even ONE “you should have” nor ONE “next time, make sure” from his lips. You know why? Because I know. I know the should’ves and the next times. He knows I know. Your husband or wife or boss or business partner learns them too.
He offered grace (as did the awesome clients) and we have moved on. Mostly. Today I’ve reflected on yesterday, and though it’s still a bummer to look back on the way things went, I am grateful for the snapshot of the character of my husband and business partner. I am grateful for the reminder to ONE: appreciate Scott for the supportive, understanding partner he is in all parts of our life together. And TWO: to learn by his example and offer others this same understanding when they make mistakes.
The shot above was taken as we drove away from Point Reyes National Seashore. We pulled over to photograph some deer, which quickly disappeared, and saw this scene. I wanted to share.